mom friends

The transition to motherhood has been more challenging than I had anticipated. Adjusting to a life of sleep deprivation, being a 24hr feeding station and entertainment system while mourning my previous life of exciting dates, regular physical activity, and going to the toilet in solitude hasn’t exactly been a walk in the park. As a new mother, I am truly thankful to have met an array of mothers who are empathic, caring, and always ready to lend a helping hand. Life without them would have been isolating. I would not have thrived as a mother and survived the hard times if it wasn’t for the support of these amazing women.

So here’s to all the mothers out there who:

  • Never judge: I can be 30 minutes late to a play date covered in spit-up and haven’t showered in 3 days and will still receive a friendly hello hug.
  • Are your second diaper bags: you forgot wipes? Need an extra nursing pad? Babe I got you covered!
  • Share your fascination with poop: who else is willing to talk about the texture, frequency, and odour of poo? When my baby went through a long stretch without pooping after introducing solids and finally let out a big one, there were many that rejoiced along with me!
  • Rock out the nursery rhymes to calm your screaming child: that’s right we can harmonize to ‘Twinkle twinkle little star’ and ‘Mr. Moon’ like a boss!
  • Feed you: when you’ve gone the whole day without eating and they host an amazing brunch that fills your soul.
  • Cry with you as you both reminisce about your newborns: “aw they used to be so small…” *sob big tears*
  • Remind you to be grateful for every single day: The previous one usually becomes this conversation.
  • Provide comfort at 3am: I can always find someone to message about weird rashes at 3am. You’re both up feeding your child anyways!
  • Share your love and excitement for baby gear: gone are the days when you talk about the latest fashion trend but “oh my goodness you MUST tell me about your new carrier!”
  • Appreciate a date at Whole Foods or Michaels: It’s a good day when you decide to call your mom friend up to check out Whole Foods and she thinks that’s an excellent idea!
  • Don’t hesitate to say “there is never TMI with us”: I am thankful for being able to talk about the intimate details of my postpartum pelvic area. After all, your mom friends are the only ones to understand the recovery your body has to go through after birthing a watermelon.
  • Build confidence: from breastfeeding in public to pushing your stroller up Mt. Doug, mom friends are always there to encourage you on!
  • Share your misery: only your mom friends can appreciate the triumph and understand the agony of rocking, feeding, more rocking, and ultimately going for a 10k walk, all for your child to nap for a total of 30 minutes in the afternoon.
  • Watch your kids while you…: go to the bathroom, take a breather, inhale breakfast, do this, do that…I am 100% trusting of leaving my child in the capable hands of these women.
  • Tell you that everything is going to be ok: most of all I remember the first few days of motherhood when I would cry uncontrollably, wince with pain with every suck of the nipple, and questioned my ability to be a mother and my moms would reassure me that they all went through this and that everything is going to be ok.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart! You are a special breed of individuals.

Did I miss any other wonderful qualities of these amazing women? Tell us about it!

For tips and ways on meeting mom friends in and around Victoria, check out this great post written by another local mom: Will You Be My Mom Friend? 4 Ways to Meet Moms in Victoria